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Can too many lonley nights make you crazy?

This poasting ia courtesy of Blogzila

Are you tired of your significant other not showing you enough attention? Have you ever had a lover who pushed you to the side one too many times? Or have you ever thought the person you were with was cheating on you? Well check this out.

Tasha was in the house cleaning up and listening to the radio when she heard a song which reminder her of her boo. She decided to give him a call to let him know she was thinking about him and maybe call him over and make it a blockbuster night. She turned the radio down, picked up her blackberry bold and called her boo. No one picked up. Maybe he was busy so she shot him a text message and went back to cleaning. A little sad, sort of angry and very upset this was the final straw and caused her to start to believe her man was cheating on her.

He called back a few hours later and told her he left his phone in the car. Tasha didn’t believe him, but she accepted his excuse and invited him over. He said he was too tired and declined her invitation but promised they could kick it tomorrow at 8. Tomorrow finally came, and he showed up late smelling like pear scented lotion. She was furious, but as females do she gave him the silent, short answer treatment, but as the night went on she couldn’t resist his baby brown eyes, muscular body and urban swag. So she gave in and the two of them had amazing sex that night.

She rode it, threw it back from the back, begged him to grab her hair and smack her a$$ and even asked him to… Long story short she put him to bed.

Later that night, she woke up to use the bathroom, and grab a drink since his snoring woke her up. While on her way into the kitchen she noticed his cell phone was laying on the table. She looked at the screen and noticed he had 14 missed calls. Most of them from a number labeled Chinese food. She wanted to ignore it, and just pour some juice and go back to bed, but then a text came through. It was a picture message. Tasha couldn’t resist, she picked up his phone and saw Chinese food was a actually a chick who had a better body than her, a little prettier than her and to make matters worse this chick was naked playing with herself saying she missed her man. Tasha’s man, their man. The one in Tasha’s bed snoring so loud it woke her in the middle of the night.

Tasha looked back at the room, looked at the phone, looked at her glass, then looked at the gourmet knife rack sitting on her counter. She was pissed.

A while back I wrote a blog called don’t check his phone you won’t like what you see. While the above scenario is a bit extreme it does happen. Our curiosity causes us to snoop for stuff we don’t want to find. And when we do we hurl our self in to a world of heartache anger and rage. All over some no good sex partner who shared too much. So with that i ask: Would you check your mates phone if you thought they were cheating on you?

10 Logical reasons she will not sleep with him

A woman knows if she’s going to sleep with a man from the moment she lays her eyes on him. Yet, just because she knows doesn’t mean a man can’t lose his coochie coupon to her sweet, nasty and gushy stuff. Here are reasons she will not sleep with him.

She won’t sleep with him because:

1.He sent a picture of his peen and she needed a magnify glass to see the picture that was sent.
2.He made her go dutch one too many times.
3.He called her a million times in 2 days
4.He couldn’t keep it up
5.His mother won’t allow him to use the phone after 10.
6.His bus pass doesn’t have spinners or a system.
7.His breath smells like phys ed.
8.He lets her walk all over him and she has lost all respect for him.
9.His sneaker look like he drug them through the mud.
10.He believes he can talk to her using lyrics from his favorite rap songs. He doesn’t understand that just because Drake, Lil Wayne and em can call girls bitches and hoes it doesn’t mean he can and still expect to get laid.
Fact of the matter is that a woman doesn’t need a reason to sleep with a man, there have even been women who have made quite the career off f*cking and sucking random men. But, that also mean she cannot sleep with a guy for no reason at all. It can be anything that causes the cooch to be taken away. What are some reasons you either took or had the cooch taken away?

The complex mind of a brokenhearted man

Men go through a bunch of different feelings when we are heartbroken. Which are as followed


Back Together - We want to get back together, so we end up calling a bit more than we should, and the female won’t take our calls or give us logical explanation as to why we can’t get back together. Wasn’t our love stronger than needing a break?

Revenge - There comes a point when we want you to feel the same pain we are feeling because even though you might be hurt to us it looks like you’re having the time of your life. We start to think so what I cheat, I was f*cking I was going to get right back. So we think maybe we should embarrass her, or sleep with her friend.

Many Women - Then eventually we decide we are just going to be the biggest male whore on the planet because since this woman hurt us it’s now women ain’t sh*t but hoes and tricks. Sure the logic is jaded, but my heart is torn into pieces and we can’t think straight.

So at the end of the day you have another man on a mission to ruin some unexpected woman all because his ex girl wouldn’t pick up the phone and talk to him because HE cheated on her. And to a man… somehow this all makes sense.

Is it true that only women can be whores?

This post is courtesy of Blogzila

This post is from a man's mouth.

A man can never be a whore, only women are whores. NOW DEAL WITH IT. A woman who has too many sex partners is a whore, a woman who takes money for sex or gifts is a whore, a woman who sleeps with a guy and his friend is a whore. Point, Blank, Period.

The fact that this is reality bothers me a lot and I’m a guy. Who says a woman can’t enjoy some of the benefits of life that a men take advantage of all the time. A man who sleeps with a lot of women is a player or a ladies man, a man who uses money and gifts for sex is a baller, and a man who sleeps with a woman and her friend is a mutha freaking Gee.

Now that we got that out of the way let’s take a look at why this is, and what makes a whore. I believe that women have a monopoly on being whores. Simply because they are quick to call another woman a whore. Ask a woman about Amber Rose, whore! Lisa Raye, WHORE! Super Head… well that’s unanimous, but you get my drift. It’s these same women who are so eager to be with another man simply because he sleeps with a lot of women. If all those other women want him then surely she must want him too. He has to possess something that brings all the girls to the yard.

Women don’t want a man who doesn’t have women chasing him. They don’t want a man who can’t get a girl, instead they want a man who slices through women like a hot knife cuts through butter. Its this mentality which allow men to be players and leave women with the moniker of whore. Surely a man is a whore, but it’s accepted
encourage and rewarded with more sex.

On the other hand, while us men will sleep with any women who will open her legs. We are guys and a guy is going to be a guy. How many of you ladies have said that before? I’m betting on mostly all of you. Women allow a man to be “players” through music, actions and their ways. So ask yourself can a man be a whore or do women allow men the option to be free? But what truly makes a whore.

If we actually look at what makes a quote unquote whore in my book the list is as follows:

A Whore is:
someone who has sex with a lot of people
someone who has sex for money
someone who has sex recklessly
someone who will lie, cheat and deceive for sex
someone who will sleep with people regardless of a specific reason ie: friends, brothers, sisters, co-workers
someone who will sleep with someone to get ahead
someone who uses sex to get ahead
someone who abuses sex for their own personal gain.

At the end of the day surely both men and women can be whores, but in the world we live in we thrive on image and perception and all the bad things about being sexual free are placed on the women and all the good things about being sexually free are placed on the male and I just don’t think that’s right. What about you?

10 reasons why women cheat

Cheating, unfortunately, is a reality in many relationships and it’s not always the man doing the sneaking around with other women. While it may be safe to assume that men cheat for obvious reasons – maybe she had a fatty or she threw herself at him and, of course, he was drunk – these are the excuses that tend to be overlooked by women. But cheating is not so readily excused when a woman does it, why? Because they step out for reasons deeper than the physical and a few drinks. If a woman is cheating on her man it’s because somewhere along the line the relationship lost its meaning or priority in her life, therefore rendering the union’s importance null and void. There are a multitude of reasons why women even feel the itch to cheat based on BOSSIP LINK

1.) She feels a lack of attention and/or not appreciated - men will make great strides to acquire his lady of interest and once she’s, without a doubt, riding for team WE or US, the romance stops. No more flowers and tokens of appreciation to show you care, no more complimenting the body parts you fell in love with, etc. A woman never wants to feel alone in a relationship. If she’s not getting the attention she needs at home, she will find it elsewhere.

2.) Too much weight - if you’re the guy with the psychotic ex-girlfriend, crazy mother of his child(ren), thug/scrub friends, you have to keep all those relationships in check at all times. There is no bigger turn-off than coming home to your unemployed homeboys playing Madden of your sofa, drinking up the beer, eating all the snacks, not knowing when it’s time to leave. There is nothing more unnerving than your children’s mother stressing you then the effects of the drama trickling down into the relationship. It’s hard enough to accept the listed circumstances, but there’s a sea of men who don’t have such excessive baggage and more than enough time and attention to devote to your woman. And he will be more than a temptation, he’ll be a breath of fresh air.

3.) Monotony - you have to keep things fresh, period. Monotony will bore anyone. If your coupledom is suffering from the same routine on the daily basis, chances are a woman will seek passion in a new or old fling. Again, women are into romance, so you don’t have to go all out with it, but just remind her that you care. Chinese take-out, blockbuster movies, Mike and Ikes and intimate conversation would be more than enough occasionally. A spontaneous dinner date or late night walk will also suffice. Be creative. But a slap on the as* and “babe can I get some pretzels and chips for the game” every Sunday and Monday night is for the birds. If she starts doing a “girls night” on your football nights, chances are ….

4.) Sex sucks - if your lady starts to grow increasingly disinterested in gettin’ it in with you, something is up. But ask yourself if your performance in the bedroom has been lackluster or less than satisfactory. Have you forgotten the freak within her and simply do it to get yourself off … sexually selfish. Women have sexual needs that demand attention and fulfillment! If you’re not performing, someone else will gladly get the job done. So when you do love your lady, you better do it like you might not get to do it again!

5.) Vengeance - if you’re the guy who slipped up a time or two and betrayed your lady, who was gracious enough to let it go, you shouldn’t let this happen again. Ever. Don’t even show the slightest bit suspect behavior, this could send her over the edge! Remember, hell hath no fury like a woman scorned, and if she feels like you deserve to feel the same pain you’ve dealt her … it’s payback time, and it will sting. So keep your parts in your pants and in house, no b.s., no suspicious behavior. She might just be waiting for you to slip up so she can have the clearance to do the same.

Should men always pay on dates?

Do you think a man will be more attracted to you or appreciate you more if you offer to pay?

Do you think paying on the first dates proves that you can be equal in the relationship?

Based on an article I recently read, it states:

When a man pays for dates it shows us that he carries the 3 important qualities we look for in men:

He's a Gentleman: There's nothing sexier than being on a date with a gentleman- if he treats you like a lady on the first date you know he'll always treat you like one. If a man can stimulate your brain on the first date before the date is over you know without a doubt that he can stimulate your entire body-men need to realize than in order to stimulate our southern regions they need to first stimulate our northern most important area-our brains. I love a man who wears his manhood well and has testosterone oozing out of his pores but while he's out with me he's a total gentleman- I can literally f--- the hairs out of his chest.

He's Responsible: Sorry men, but the biggest deal breaker is a man who lacks responsibility. A man who is responsible has his life in order. Being responsible on the first dates is an indication that he has the ability to contribute to the relationship-you'll never waste seconds of your precious life dealing with his lackof. He has priorities and is disciplined- he won't be playing Russian Roulette with your relationship.

He's a Provider: When a man is able to treat you on dates you know the man is financially stable and that he can be a great provider for you. We're not talking about a sugar daddy because the majority of us are independent and don't need a man around to support us but it's nice to know a man can financially take care of things. A broke men is such a huge turn off. If he can't pay for the first dates then what can you expect from him in the long run?

Ladies, please save your hard earned money for something else and allow a man to pay for dates. Trust me, there are plenty of men out there who enjoy courting you- date those and not the ones that expect you to dip into your wallet on the first dates. Once you have something established with the man you'll feel much better about treating him or cooking for him because he's earned it.

Ladies what do you think???

Is it possible to feel tricked into fatherhood?

You two were careful, but somehow she got pregnant. It happens. Or not... Getting tricked into fatherhood by a woman hell-bent on getting pregnant is much more common than you think.

Imagine for a moment this perfectly plausible scenario: You've had a steady girlfriend for a year or so and everything's going great. You still hold hands at the movies. Friends tell you you're good together. You're both around 30 years old and making plenty of money, maybe living together, but you're nowhere near considering fatherhood. And though you occasionally get the feeling that her biological clock is set far ahead of yours, she tells you she's "safe," so you don't worry. Why would you? It's not as if you'd just picked her up on Dollar Margarita Night at Senor Frog's. But one morning she tells you something has gone wrong. Unlikely as it sounds, she's pregnant-and she wants to keep it. What she doesn't tell you, though, is this: She wasn't being safe all along. She wanted to have that baby— and the way she saw it, this was the only way to make happen.

It's more like, 'Hey, the timing is right for me. I got pregnant—oops! Well, it's here, let's have it.' I think that's more the way it is now than it was back in the day when you had to marry someone before you got pregnant. Marriage doesn't matter now."


Courtesy of Ian Daley

Some women dont mind being the other woman.

This is a post I found Online.........by an anonymous reader!!!!!


Although, most are a bit judgemental of a woman’s decision to be a jump off, it was only fair that I posted a comment from a reader who is perfectly happy with being “the other woman”.

I usually don’t post anything in the comments section but I have to speak for the women who are happy being the other woman, the jump off, the sideline, if you will. One of my best friends asked me why I continue to sleep with this guy knowing he has a girlfriend and this is what I told her….

I’m a 23 year old chick who has her sh*t together. Might sound vain but really its true. Going to school about to graduate in June of 09, got my own spot, my own car and a damn good job. Unfortunately, I was once sidetracked by love and it almost ruined my life. I almost lost everything I had and was working for. The man I loved didn’t give a f*ck about me. I was just as dumb as Kim Porter is when it comes to Diddy. Swearing up and down my boyfriend was my real life Mr.. Big. Lol at myself!! “I’m his main chick so f*ck the other b*tches!” I’m the one he bought a ring for and took on a trip to Hawaii but I was also the one who got dogged out the most outta all the rest of the h*es. All you so-called wifey’s, girlfriends, and main’s might not wanna admit this but you’re getting done wrong and you’re not even happy. Which is why I’m now the other woman, his mistress, the jump-off, if you will. Call it what you want but I’m happy with an occasional f*ck, dinner, a couple shoes and no emotions involved.

Bran….well, lets just call him Josh, is a win-win situation. I don’t have to worry about why he didn’t call me back last night. With Josh I don’t argue or fight. He’s not my man, he’s just my f*ck buddy so that aint my job to worry about where he been all night. I get the benefits of having a boyfriend (with the great sex, great convo’s and dinner) and the benefits of not having a boyfriend (no drama, no embarrassment, no shared accounts). Which is why I don’t believe that men are the only ones who can benefit from this type of “relationship”. This might sound harsh but hell no I don’t feel guilty for having sex with Josh! I don’t want to take him from her, I just borrow him from time to time. Believe it or not I feel sorry for Josh’s girlfriend and I sometimes wonder if she knows he’s cheating; Though I doubt if she found out I would care. In society, people make us believe that women can’t do what men do. Yes we can(Vote Obama 08′) and we do it better! And your absolutely right, there are no male “hoes”, “mistresses”, or “jump-off’s” but I be damned if I’m labeled as one just because I wanna get my swerve on! I don’t feel the least bit guilty for nothing I do. And even though Kelis is one weird ass chick she said, “I’m the author of the only dictionary that defines me.” And that’s real talk.

I’ll take my “chicken pass” right now because my first reaction was “Girl I feel you!!!!!”. And no I don’t condone being a “jump, mistress, other woman, etc” however, the commenter made some very valid points on why most women choose to play “The Other Woman” role. To be honest, the first guy I’ve ever dated (and loved) was TAKEN! (I was 17 so bare with me) I didn’t give a damn about those occasional weekends he spent with his girlfriend because when he was with me, he made me feel as though I was his main chick. When I was fresh out of college, my mentality was “why would i want to be “the woman” when she’s being lied to and cheated on while “the other woman” is being told the truth and has a good idea where her “borrowed man” is when he’s not with her. (although I doubt she cares). The Other woman reaps the benefits and rewards and then sends the man home to his woman who has to deal with all the upkeep of a relationship (cooking, cleaning, taking care of the kids & mad drama).

Don’t get it twisted, this was my thought process years ago. I haven’t borrowed a man in ages (that was over 10 years ago) and I know better now. I be damned if I come home to my hooptie sitting on cement blocks just because I’ve screwed someone’s man…And when there is a family involved (marriage, kids, etc) I definitely wouldn’t touch it. Ironically, most women that are being cheated on in their relationship has played “The Other Woman” at some point in their life. Karma is a b*tch…

Can a woman handle just a fling with a guy?

This is all from a man's mouth:

Bottom line-if I sleep with a woman I don’t know or care about SEX is NOT going to make me care. That kind of sex is like scratching an itch. Once a man scratches, he’s through. He ain’t sitting around thinking about that spot that itched or how good it felt scratching it. He’s moving on with his life until that spot itches again and it don’t matter which hand he scratches it with, just as long as he gets rid of the itch.

Too many women PRETEND they can handle a sexual fling, but wind up getting caught up and wanting us to romance and wine and dine them and pretend we’re having a “relationship” when it’s NOTHING but a boooty call. Come on, ladies, y’all know I’m telling the truth.

Unfortunately, ladies, you are part of our problem. You sleep with us BEFORE you know us or what we’re about. Having sex with a man does not automatically make that a “relationship”. Many women will deny they think like this but I’m speaking from personal experience. Also, ladies know when their men are fooling around and still turn a blind eye by getting mad at the other woman. Now what kind of sense does that make? Why should that woman make YOU(a total stranger) a priority in her life? IF HE DID NOT MARRY YOU HE IS STILL SINGLE. The “other woman” is not breaking up a “happy home”.

Many women marry men who were cheating BEFORE they walked down the aisle and then are SHOCKED that a fancy wedding dress or an expensive walk down the aisle didn’t change who he was. Why should he change? YOU let him know it was acceptable by sticking around that long.

Ladies, start living with your eyes OPEN. Most shady men give themselves away one way or another, usually before the first 30 days. Women have to stop “rewarding” unfaithful men by pretending it ain’t happening. All of us Black Men (BM) do not cheat. I do not cheat on my lady so don’t buy the hype. I know other BM who do not but many men WILL cheat if there are NO real penalties for it.

Stop jumping into bed with brothers YOU DON’T KNOW. That means fewer opportunities for men to cheat. Women have to STOP being so afraid to ask the important questions that would reveal his TRUE lifestyle.

Worry LESS about what kind of job he has and what kind of car he drives and encourage him to talk about his past, particularly his past with women. OPEN those ears and listen. Does he put down his ex-women and blame them for everything? And don’t be so vain. You are NOT a better woman than his last. If he dogged her out, you will probably be NEXT.

Observe him when you are with him. Do you have his home number? Work number? Have you seen where he lives? Where he works? Is he secretive? Did you ask if he’s married or engaged? How does he treat other people? Listen to what he says, NOT what you want to hear. Stop INTERPRETING the meaning of what he says to fit your purposes.

If he says, “I’m not lookin’ for nothing right now” - DON’T tell yourself, “Aw, he just scared of getting hurt. I can change his mind..” NO YOU CAN’T. He said exactly what the hell he meant. BM don’t have to lie when so many BW are already DEAF.

If you can’t answer BASIC questions about a man DON’T OPEN YOUR LEGS. I could kinda understand back in the days when sex wouldn’t KILL people but now? There’s no excuse and if a BW takes that huge risk of sleeping with a STRANGER then she better protect herself - sexually AND emotionally.

Show our d*ck to the door if we pressure you for sex too soon. Don’t be afraid to be alone. After you give our d*ck some you will probably be alone anyway but now you feel like a fool. In other words, take your time and check us out. If we REALLY like you, we’ll stick around. BUT if you decided to sleep with a man you hardly know, PROTECT yourself and keep your expectations to ZERO. We do not owe you a relationship or another date just because you had sex with us. That’s not how it works, baby

You are TOTALLY RESPONSIBLE for your own sexual behavior the same as I am. Blaming the man won’t change a damn thing. BW have to look in the mirror and take SOME of the blame for what’s wrong with BM/BW relationships. Let me end by saying….

SEX DOES NOT EQUAL A RELATIONSHIP. GIVING A MAN A READY-MADE FAMILY WILL NOT MAKE HIM COMMIT IF HE DOESN’T WANT TO. A MAN WILL NOT RESPECT A WOMAN WHO DOES NOT RESPECT HERSELF OR HER BODY, IF YOU TRADE SEX FOR MATERIAL THINGS YOU ARE PROSTITUTING YOURSELF.

IF HE DOESN’T TAKE CARE OF HIS OTHER CHILDREN WHY WOULD YOU HAVE A BABY WITH HIM? IF YOU REWARD A DOG WHY SHOULD MEN STOP BEING DOGS? BRING MORE TO THE TABLE THAN YOUR BODY. NO, YOUR PUSSY IS NOT MADE OF GOLD. IT IS ONLY AS GOOD AS I THINK IT IS. BELIEVE THAT.

Marriage vs. companionship

Do we still believe that men and women are required to play those “traditional” roles in their relationships…especially with the change of the times. Are married women still required to stay home and “cook a meal” while her husband works to support the family?

BUT then I realized that maybe it’s me that has the distorted perception of what relationships and marriage should be.

I think at times we, as woman have a habit of forcing men into relationships and situations that they are not ready to commit to. For us, titles become important over time. We need to know if we are the main chick, mistress, girlfriend, fiancee, wife. We need to know our status…

So Does Titles Screw A Relationship up? I ask this because with titles we create limitations and boundaries in our relationships which in turn creates unnecessary (or necessary) pressure. My expectations of a person as my boyfriend are higher than that of a friend I am just dating. My expectations of my husband are higher than that of a person that is just my boyfriend. It’s the change that occurs in individuals because of their perspective on what the title means that causes issues”. Why is it that my cousin dated her high school sweetheart for 12 years but it wasn’t until they tied the knot and she became wife that the problems started to arise.

RIP to the Chicago teen who was brutally beaten..............senseless act of violence

A message from Nas,

Nas has hit the blogs regarding the 16 year-old honor student that was beaten and killed. The youth really should take heed to this message:

Dear Young Warriors fighting the wrong wars! Killing each other is definitely played out. Being hurt from the loss of a love one was never cool.

Dear Young Warriors fighting the wrong war! I know that feeling, that frustration with life and needing to take it out on someone, anyone. But….

We chose the dumbest things to go the hardest for. I remember seeing deaths over 8 ball jackets, fila’s, and name plate chains. Deaths over “he say she say”!!!!! “I’m from This block or I’m from that block,” or “my moms n pops is f*cked up now the whole world gotta pay!!!”

I remember feeling like I was the hardest “n*gga” breathin. And I couldn’t wait to prove it. 
But let’s think. What r we really proving?? And proving what to who?? Everybody knows Chicago breeds the strongest of the strong but I just feel, me, being ya brother from another state, feel your pain as if I grew up with you in ya very own household.

You have the ability and mindpower to change the way we are looked at. Look who’s watching us young warriors, look who’s throwin us in jail constantly, look at the ignorance in the world. Look at the racist dogs who love to see us down. Lovin to bury us in the ground or in jail where we continue this worthless war on one another. Young warriors…. We are WASTING more and more time. We gotta get on our jobs and take over the world. Cuz this movie left the theaters years ago, Juice, Menace, Boys n the Hood, Blood n Blood Out, Belly!

When we see each other why do we see hatred? Why were we born in a storm, born soldiers, WARRIORS….and instead of building each other up we are at war with each other.. May the soul of this young person find peace with the Almighty. I’m with you young warriors. You’re me and I’m you. But trust me! You are fighting the wrong war.

This sh*t sucks !!

-Nas

How would you react if you found out that your mate suspected you of cheating arranged for one of their attractive friends to try to holla as a setup?

Have you ever been in this situation?

What would you do if you were set up, then you went for it and ruined your relationship? Would you even think of setting up your mate to see if they'd go? Check out a few responses from a few peeps below?

1)That is messed up. but if you truly love the person you are with you would not cheat. Even if her friend is a ten. But it would be taming. lol. But i think i have been tested a couple of times.

2)If a man or a woman is that insecure that they'd feel the need to pull a stunt like this...they don't deserve to be in a relationship in the first place. It seems to me that, if this is an option, your mate already knows enough to make an informed decision. The question that I want answered is this: If your mate arranged for this "accidental" meeting and those two individuals got that thang on...would the mate then inturn feel like a complete idiot for setting it up in the first place?

3)"I KNOW HOW MEN THINK!" When younger I know the type of man I was so I was trueful with the ten (10) women that I lived with. YOU ARE A MAN! if you want your cake and eat it to, stop playing kid like games and be trueful with your woman or women in your life. Stand tall as a man, act lke a man and do the things true men do. Don't lie to your woman or women. YOU ARE A MAN, ACT LIKE IT. "What happen when this pretty woman came to you?

4)Be secure with yourself & if a relationship doesn't feel right - it prob isn't. It is ok to be alone & wait for someone that will meet your needs, wants and make you feel secure. Once you start playing games, all bets off. AND that means you prob crazier than I realized so I'm RUNNIN' now b4 you start going thru, ... Read Morefollowing my phone/computer, poppin' up where I hang or whatever you might of had up your sleeve. Cz I got a few rule - you embarrass me oh Heaven's can be sure you will be embarrassed 2, but I won't be mad about it.

The affair between Alicia Keys, Swiss Beats and Mashonda......hmmm

From Bossip Ent.


Alicia Keys has pissed MaShonda off for the last time. AK sent a tweet to her followers saying: “Having a heated debate n the studio. Question is…N love is it better to go 4 the choice that is ‘SMART’ or the choice that has ‘SPARK’??”

In response to this tweet, MaShonda wrote a letter to AK on Twitter. After reading the whole thing, she came to Alicia like a woman… Even though it was on Twitter.


After having a great evening with my son and enjoying some fun twit chat, I decided to sign off and get some work done. However, a few hours later I was advised that I should check @aliciakeys twit page. I’ve never reached out to her on twitter before. I feel our issues are a lot more serious than a website conversation. Not to mention that I’ve reached out to her many times in the beginning of this whole thing, as any wife would do. Unfortunately, I never succeeded in getting a response. The 1st time I meet AK, my husband introduced us to each other at an event. ( I have no choice but to call him my husband, until he is not anymore) In the messages that I sent to her (AK), I made it very clear that on the contrary of what she might be hearing, I am still married to my husband, living with him and just had a child. It’s been two years and I still have not received a response. What I do receive, is constant displays of selfishness and disconcern to me and my son.

I was a fan of AK’s last album, we were both signed to J Records and I always checked up on her projects. I sang her songs and admired her for creating Superwoman and Karma, I would never deny her, her talent. I believed in her until I found out she was possibly sleeping with my husband. The affair was denied by both, until it was finally admitted months later.

Already I can hear some of you saying “why are u blaming her, you can’t make someone leave their wife, you can’t break something that’s broken.” Well, my marriage was not broken, as far as I knew, we were celebrating our son’s birth and getting ready to celebrate our 5 year wedding anniversary . Call it blind love, whatever. I call it being a devoted wife. As far as me blaming her and not blaming him, that’s false. Me and my husband have worked out our differences. We are in a good place as people and as parents. I accept his choices and I am comfortable enough with myself to move on. I am so very blessed in many ways.

My concern with AK is no longer the fact that she assisted in destroying a family but that she has the audacity to make these selfish comments about love and wanting to be with someone, even after knowing their situation. How is this the same Superwoman that I sang out loud with in my truck? I ask myself sometimes.

If you are reading this Alicia, let me start by saying, you know what you did. You know the role you played and you know how you contributed to the ending of my marriage. You know that I asked you to step back and let me handle my family issues. Issues that you helped to create.

I’m not saying everything was perfect all the time but no relationship is perfect. We made a vow to God and I believe you should have respected that, as a woman. I know you owe me or my son nothing but I just wish you would’ve handled things more carefully. I’m not judging you, I put you and the whole situation in the hands of God, the Higher Power. Just know that as a woman, I expected so much more from you. I never had intentions on reaching out to you this way but after reading your twits tonight, and the constant disregard, you left me no choice. I feel that after 1 and a half years of you hiding this affair and acting like it doesn’t exist, that now is the time to confront it, since you talk so openly about it now

This is not a publicity stunt, I don’t have a record coming out. I just need to close this chapter in my life and that means confronting our issues. There is a small child involved. His dad loves him to death and he wants to spend more time with him but he’s afraid because he knows we don’t have a relationship. This is my main concern. My son NEEDS his dad and I NEED to be comfortable with you. For him!

I know many will see my point and many will not be able to look into what’s real because they only want to see Alicia Keys the celebrity, not the human. This is not for the “people,” this is for you. Like I said, I was left no choice but to reach out to you this way. By now, I’m sure you want to find a balance in this as well.

I read your tweets tonight and I felt they were very insensitive. You have no idea how much pain I was caused because of this affair. It’s baffling to me that you don’t understand what I might have gone through with this situation. I don’t consider myself a victim anymore, I’ve learned a lot from this! I just ask you to try and be a bit more realistic and delicate to the situation, at least until my divorce is final. I felt me attending the party would have been a starting point for us, since you shook my hand after I offered it, but I suppose I was wrong.

If it’s so, that you and my husband are meant to be together, then God bless you both and I hope you never have to deal with what I did. I would not wish it on my worst enemy. If you two being together forever is the case, it’s more of a reason for us to get along, because I’m not going anywhere. There’s a child to be raised.

To answer your tweet, choose smart over spark. Sparks burn everyone, be smart! It’s simple actually, just think of the shoe being on the other foot.

Stay blessed and let’s work this thing out with respect and dignity.

In response to whether emotional or physical cheating was worse, we asked a few friends..........

Below are a few responses from random people about whether emotional or physical cheating is worse:

1)emotional. harder to heal! ask Rihanna...not a joke

2)Emotional because the scars on the inside can remain long after the physical cheating is forgiven and forgotten about.

3)Physical it can cause alot more damage! Emotions don't make babies if you know what I mean.

4)I would have to say emotional hands down. I agree with the fellas here. It has a longer lasting mental affect not only on the cheater but on his partner as well.

5)They are both bad as far as I know.. physical is more intense, but the pain of both types of affairs would be equally as painful for me.

6)I would say emotional cuz the cheater is actually forming feelings and a connection with the person they are cheating with. If the person had to make a choice whether to stay with the person they are with and leave the one they are cheating with it'll be harder cuz of the emotional bond/feelings that have already developed.